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BDSM Test

The fact of you being on this website means you have an interest in BDSM.
This is most likely because you are having BDSM feelings.
But it is possible you are here because your partner or a good friend gave you this link so you can read and learn about his/her interest in BDSM.

Since we have this website, I've spoken about BDSM with a lot of people. Explaining them what BDSM stands for and what is and isn't BDSM.
Many times the person I was talking to ended up saying: "If this is true it would mean I would be into BDSM ?? I'm not!!"
My default reply would be: "I'm sorry, but it is true and you just answered your own question" (and if I detected a sense of humor in the person I'd add: Welcom to the club ..... freak!" to it)

During all these conversations I used a lot of everyday examples to simplify matters and make them understand.
Doing so I ended up with a small list of questions to find out whether someone might have BDSM related feelings.

Remember: Admitting you are somehow into BDSM, does not mean you want to be tight up and whipped hard while being anally abused and drowned in boiling oil.
It means you like at least 1 tiny small part of BDSM which could be as much as teasing someone with a feather.

Try to answer the following questions and be as honest as possible.
Remember, by not being honest about them, you're not fooling me but you're only deceiving yourself.

Have you:

1. Ever made love while there was a blindfold involved?

2. Ever made love while one of you was 'gently' forced down by holding the wrists?

3. Ever made love while some ones nipples were softly squeezed or pinched ?

4. Ever made love while one of you was being bitten in a nipple?

5. Ever made love with handcuffs involved?

6. Ever made love with ice-cubes involved?

7. Ever had an erotic fantasy about rape or forced sex?

8. Ever had an erotic fantasy about being a king with a harem of being in the harem?

9. Ever had an erotic fantasy about exhibitionism?

10. Ever had an erotic fantasy about unintentional exhibitionism? (like getting caught or being forced to be naked in public)

11. Ever had an erotic fantasy about forced crossdressing or getting caught while crossdressing?

12. Ever been sexually aroused while looking at movies/pictures of imprisonment?

13. Ever been sexually aroused while looking at movies/pictures of spanking?

14. Ever had an erotic fantasy about spanking?

15. Ever had an erotic fantasy about forced sex (physically forced or blackmailed) with someone of the same gender?

16. Ever had an erotic fantasy about schoolgirl/boy discipline.

17. Ever been sexually aroused by any type of uniform? (army/police/nurse)

18. Ever had an erotic fantasy about slavery?

19. Ever been sexually aroused by watching someone being forced in public while being naked? (like a schoolmate being dragged out of a shower/locker-room etc.)

20. Ever had an erotic fantasy about being abducted and used/abused. (by aliens/pirates/soldiers/gangsters etc.)

Have you answered 1 or at most 5 of the questions with Yes?
If you did, you could be interested in some parts of BDSM. This might be no more as having kinky sex, but the interest is there.

Have you answered 5 to 10 of the questions with yes?
You are interested in BDSM, whether you realize it or not.

Have you answered all questions with yes?
You naughty, naughty ......

Hope I helped you learn something about yourself here.
and ... hope you like what you learned here.

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Last edited: 25 maart 2006